Why was Life’s Last Wishes created?

Life’s Last Wishes was created because when my father died – I wished this had been in the world.  My father was diagnosed with cancer and given 2 years to live. He was in his early 60’s. I was trying to come around to accepting the diagnosis, as was he, when, 8 days after being told he had cancer, he died. He died still wanting to live, asking where the 2 years went, where his time went.

It was hard. To lose my father like that, it was devastating.

You know what made that time even harder? Having to make decisions for him about his wishes for after his death, without knowing what his wishes were. Having to decide whether to bury or cremate – what would he have wanted? Church service? Flowers? What songs would he have liked to have been played?

Sitting on the computer at midnight the night before the funeral, four siblings who had just lost their father, trying to decide and agree on music for the service. What would he want, what were his last wishes?

It went further than that. Where was his will? We know he had one, but it’s a few years on now, and we still haven’t found it.

Bank accounts – who did he bank with? Social media accounts – what did he want done with these? Didn’t he once say he wanted to leave that piece of jewellery to my brother – I can’t recall. We can’t agree.

You get the point. In our grief, the last thing we need is to be put in a position where we are making decisions for our lost loved ones without having a full understanding of what they would have wanted.

We don’t want to get that wrong. We also don’t want to burden our loved ones with that stress on top of their grief.

So it was after my father passed and after the ordeal of having to make decisions about his last wishes without knowing what they were, that I vowed I would never put my loved ones through that same situation. I would record what my last wishes were and leave that for them, so that when the time came, in their grief they wouldn’t have to play a guessing game around what my last wishes might have been. This is how Life’s Last Wishes was born, and it was born to help us make sure our wishes are known when we die, and to relieve our loved ones of the burden of having to decide for us. Life’s Last Wishes is the single greatest gift you can give you loved ones.

How can you leave a legacy? Here’s some pointers to start you off:

*Develop your personal vision statement
*Define your core values
*Be a mentor to others
*Provide a family tree or history
*Leave a will
*Let your life be your message
*Give the greatest gift you can give – Life’s Last Wishes
*Write your memoir
*Write a book
*Start a blog
*Pass down heirlooms or handmade items
*Add to your personal vision with a personal mission statement
*Support the people and causes that are important to you.

I hope Life’s Last Wishes can help you to both leave a legacy and leave the greatest gift possible.

“Let your life be your message” Mahatma Gandhi

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What is Life’s Last Wishes and Who’s it for?

What is Life’s Last Wishes?

Well it’s a passion project really.  But it’s much more than that.

Life’s Last Wishes solves a problem. As adults we’re responsible for our lives. What happens when we die though? We tend not to take responsibility for what happens to us after we die. Life’s Last Wishes is the gift to help us do just that. To relieve our loved ones of the burden of making choices for us during their own grieving. You can make it easier for those you leave behind with Life’s Last Wishes.

That in itself is a worthy outcome, however Life’s Last Wishes also offers you the opportunity to share your life’s lessons, your values, thoughts, hopes and dreams with your loved ones. It’s your legacy. It’s about how you’d like to be remembered. Life’s Last Wishes is there for you and your loved ones.

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Life’s Last Wishes – for you, for me

Who is Life’s Last Wishes for?

Where you are on your life’s journey is irrelevant – Life’s Last Wishes is for everyone.

It’s for you. There is no time like the present to take steps to record your wishes. Life’s Last Wishes is a chance for some self-reflection and a way to share your thoughts, values, passions, dreams and lessons with your loved ones and future generations. This is your legacy.

It’s for your parents, children and loved ones.

My Dad’s sudden passing had me wishing I’d had a Life’s Last Wishes in my life, and that I had sat with my Dad to complete his last wishes. Not only would it have saved my siblings and I much despair in our grief, it would have given my Dad and I a wonderful opportunity to have these conversations, to talk about his life, and what his wishes were. You can purchase Life’s Last Wishes for your parents or loved ones and go through the process with them, or gift it to them to complete themselves in their own time. Either way, it’s about making sure our wishes are known and leaving less decision making and far less stress to those left behind in their grief.

There is no time like the present – you never know when it’s going to be too late.

“Let your life be your message”  Mahatma Ghandi

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